So, this year's
Gathering is to be the last. Unless someone, someday, decides to revive the con and give it another whirl.
It's a sorrowful state of affairs. The end of an era that's spanned a lot of our lives. Brought people together. Seen some drift apart. An era that's watched a generation of kids grow from toddlers to teens. There've been marriages. There've been babies. There've been loves and fights and friendships.
I'm as much to blame as any for succumbing to the apathy that pervades the fandom, as well as the sense of disenheartenment among those who've been involved with organizing and putting on this thing year after year. I've been on con staff a few times and associated with it a few more. I have a pretty good idea of the stress, the struggle. The toll it can take, not just mentally and emotionally but physically, financially, and in every possible other way.
And I've seen the response. Sure, there are those out in the fandom who don't deserve to be tarred with this brush, but FFS the bellyachers and whiners tend to overshadow everyone else. I got fed up dealing with that long ago. Just not worth the effort of arguing with.
The dwindling of submissions and interest for the anthology was probably a key factor for me. Maybe I tried to stretch out too long. Maybe we should have ended it after the first three, maybe the fourth was a desperate grasp and this fifth, with its even narrower subject, was doomed from the get-go. It was always a labor of love. But at some point, the scales tipped more toward labor and less toward love.
We Morgans decided, some months ago, that we wouldn't be attending the Gathering this year. We'd been several times, occasionally just me, occasionally all three of us. It represented a big chunk of our vacation budget, both in terms of money and in terms of time off from work. A budget that we selfishly chose to put toward other things.
Toward saving up for our next cruise, and sending Becca to be an exchange student in Germany, and giving Tim a chance to attend that medieval conference (something HE wanted to do instead of it always being about ME for a change; he'll deny it but we all know it's true! :D).
The reasons for going really had little enough to do with the con itself. We wouldn't be going to attend panels, or try to make connections to break into the animation biz. We'd be going to spend time with friends ... but the friends we'd be wanting to spend time with would be the ones so busy with the con itself, for the most part, that we wouldn't be ABLE to.
Do we want to be there? Of course. Do we have a DUTY to be there? Maybe. But I wonder. A duty to what? To our friends? To the con? To the fandom itself?
I don't know. Ever since the disastrous collapse of my last game, I've been thinking a lot about reciprocity, about endeavors being worth the effort, about what I'm getting back from doing the things I do.
I'm a lazy, selfish bitch. When I reach a point of diminishing returns, when I'm not finding sufficient satisfaction, happiness, or enjoyment from something ... I start to wonder why I'm going to all the trouble.
Anyway. That's the haps. To my friends on the con staff, I love you wacky wonderful people. I'm sorry for not being more there for you. I drifted. And I understand completely if/why you're upset with me.